These are a list of common problem warnings in relationships. If you and your spouse have several of these, it may be helpful to you to seek a professional to encourage growth in your relationship, such as a couples counselor.
Past behavior in relationships (patterns)
Character
Family of origin (degree of dysfunction)
Friends (how do they conduct themselves)
Neediness (degree)
Development of self outside of the relationship
Nature of conflicts
Our relationship (needs) skewed
Sexual patterns (questionable, past/compatibility)
Values (comparable?)
Possessiveness (jealousy)
Behavior toward the opposite sex (appropriate?)
Number of things that you are uncomfortable about
Capacity for trust
Spirituality - if applicable
Demands (or lack of)
Involvement in dysfunctional relationships
Alcohol/drug usage
Relationship (children)
Level of self-esteem
Ability to take responsibility (in conflict)
Concrete vs. abstract thinking (ability, other views)
Emotional intelligence
Tolerance of others (opinion, behavior)
Degree of flexibility
Impact on your stress level
Amount of energy required (to deal with this person)
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